How To Put Out!
Nov02

How To Put Out!

    I struggle big time with fully putting myself out there.   “Putting out” to me means walking through life with my true self at the helm. (And not the sexual innuendo, although I’ll admit it’s a sweet gimmick to get your attention. Stay with me a moment as I explain…)   See, I’m fully capable of sharing the vulnerable aspects of me that I’ve sorted out. The neuroses and insecurities that I’ve neatly...

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6 Things To Do Instead of Choking Your Co-Workers
Mar01

6 Things To Do Instead of Choking Your Co-Workers

    Something’s in the air right now! RIGHT?!   A sticky sweet something that’s driving everyone insane, wanting to pull their hair-extensions out, quit their corporate jobs, move to a faraway island and marry a local, or simply say “ugh, I’m so over it!”   It’s like the whole planet Earth is PMS-ing, and everyone is feeling the effects of the junk-food-binge-fueled rage. (And the faint glimmer of hope is that men...

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3 Moves To Get Into Shape (Spiritually)
Jan18

3 Moves To Get Into Shape (Spiritually)

    Change isn’t easy. It’s not meant to be. Just like working out, without pain there’s no gain.   And look, sometimes you have to look at your flabby mid-section and admit you’ve been a little lazy and that your jeans cut into your belly button worse than the hoop you convinced your mom to let you get when you were 16. Admitting you have some weaknesses doesn’t mean you’ve given up on working on them. Listen, I was...

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Making Resolutions is Cool
Dec31

Making Resolutions is Cool

    Without knowing what we want our lives to look like, we may never see our dreams come true, or our lives change in the ways we pine for. Scary!   So what now?   I’ll get to that. After I make it relevant to my journey through my painful 20s….   ….see, for as long as I can remember, I had not received what I kept saying I so desperately wanted for myself and for my life. Why? Well, because I never actually...

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A Q&A With My Self About True Love
Dec26

A Q&A With My Self About True Love

  I’ve just returned from 10 days in the most beautiful Caribbean island of Grenada. Tan, toned, but not without a heavy heart.   Goodbye’s have never been easy for me. In High School, I’d avoid them completely — you would hardly ever catch me at a yearbook signing or graduation party. In college, I would ghost when it came time for the end of the night —  I would smell the awful hugs and plans to reconnect coming from an...

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How To Make A Wise Decision
Oct27

How To Make A Wise Decision

    I’m gonna get a little personal. See, for as long as I can remember, I’ve been the kind of girl who just ‘went with it.’   I go with the flow! I’m open-minded! Oh, I can figure it all out as I go.   Only problem is, this philosophy started biting me in the ass right around my 20s — when the decisions up for the making held much more weight and potential backlash. When going with the flow could yield...

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10 Realizations That Changed My Life
Sep26

10 Realizations That Changed My Life

  Your 20s are hard. You’re a half-human, fumbling your way towards the promise of maturity and wisdom, tracking sh*t through the house because the piles are everywhere, unavoidable.   But with every mess I’ve made, I’ve managed to glean a useful nugget for the road. And below are 10 of my favorite gold nuggets, I hope they help you as much as they’ve helped (and continue to guide) me!   10...

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How to not lose your self in a relationship
Sep08

How to not lose your self in a relationship

  As an amateur dater, I’ve oftentimes found myself in relationships I wasn’t ever supposed to be in from the start. Relationships with men who were not in the least bit compatible with me, but who made my Mom proud, or my best friends super jealous. Relationships with idiot boys who pushed all the wrong buttons, but whom I so desperately wanted to conquer and change. I was the united colors of dating, trying...

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5 Steps To Uncovering Your Purpose
Jun14

5 Steps To Uncovering Your Purpose

  Your 20s force you to picking your “focus” for life, which is insane! You’ve hardly picked a sexual orientation let alone a vocation to do forever. As someone who struggled with her own path, I’ve managed to piece together the five steps towards uncovering your destiny. Amazing, right?   Call me a conspiracy theorist, but colleges would be out of money if they ever taught students the tid bits...

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How to Conquer your Flight-Mares
May25

How to Conquer your Flight-Mares

    I can’t intellectualize turbulence. As much as I try to meditate on “let it go, you have no control, the pilot knows what he’s doing…unless he’s Denzel, but he’s not — you saw him walking in, he looks like a solid stand-up kinda guy. Look at your neighbors, they look calm (except for that dude rocking back and forth, oh man we’re going down). Breath, just…breath....

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